Happy Happy Monday peeps!
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Now onto the Monday Mommy-isms…
#2 Fight!
I hate confrontation….hate fighting….hate the drama…it’s so dumb. Unnecesary even. But that’s not to say that the hubbs and I don’t fight.
We argue….boy, do we argue!
We yell.
We get frustrated.
And when I have something to say…I say it.
Sometimes we fight (verbally only, jes so you kno) in front of the kids…bad move, I know. I used to think that we were bad parents, fighting in front of our kids. But sometimes issues arise out of nowhere…and what are you supposed to do?! “Zip it, Lock it, Put it in your pocket”…that’s what Annalise would tell you if she caught you yelling….mmm hmmm
It’s not the healthiest situation to put your children in. But then again, you don’t want them to NOT see you fight. It’s an unrealistic expectation to set forth on your children….that people don’t argue, that they don’t resolve conflicts.
We’re no where near perfect when it comes to conflict resolution…when I get angry, the Leo in me, flares up with pride…and sometimes it’s so difficult to come to a resolution. And the hubbs is no different….he’s a Taurus…nuff said! But for the most part, we resolve the best way we know how, and we do what works for us.
I don’t want the girls learning how to fight and resolve issues from someone else. As much as I hate for them to see us argue…I think it’s healthy for them to see us bump heads and then come to a conclusion. Teaches them to be true to their emotions, shows them compassion and how to come to an agreement.
I’m not saying that you NEED to fight in front of your kids…but don’t try to strive for perfection. Fighting is inevitable in any relationship…it’s healthy to argue and disagree. We’re not robots…things happen…life happens.
I don’t want to keep my children in a bubble…shielding them from all the bad in the world, and then one day releasing them into…well, the wild. Now, that would be bad parenting on my part.
Thoughts? Am I totally cray cray?
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I truly enjoyed reading this post.
No, you’re not “cray cray”
i’ve seen friends who have been together FOREVER… kids, a house, a thousand cars and a lifetime later they still aren’t married. They’re actually barely in love, and they’ve just realized that maybe they shouldnt be together. I’ve watched others get married for every reason other than love, and then seen the nasty divorce and child custody battle that follows.
Love without marriage and marriage without love. I absolutely think the former is acceptable and in some cases more favorable, and that the latter should be a sin.. but in both scenarios my question is… where’s the fairytale? maybe its just the girly girl in me but I always invisioned this “love” thing to be “happily ever after” like snow white or cinderella.
But to be quite honest, people change and forget to tell each other. People fall in and out of love and break up over petty shit. people just dont seem to be worth it. people work and grow and I thought the whole point of being with someone is to work towards a common dream and grow with each other right? so what happens when u find yourselves on sepearate pages in different chapters of your story?? to make anything work takes a lot of compromise and lateral movement to meet in the middle.
they say love makes the world go round, but its what keeps my world together. after all the blood, sweat, and tears… love is what’s left.. and for me, love is what makes it all worth it.
With that being said, I’m glad to know you and Anthony can get through the ups and downs even if the girls have to see it because like YOU said, they need to see you guys bump heads and come to a conclusion. Everything is all about resolution!
Omg, okay. I think I’ve said enough. LOL! Sorry for ranting.
Thx so much for “ranting” Dinah! hehe…I really don’t mind at all =) You def brought up a lot of good points! And you’re right about people changing…What happens, I think, is that there are a lot of us who fall in love…and then expect to stay in love like that forever. But the reality is, we won’t be on cloud nine forever. The honeymoon stage wears off and we’re left with the day to day….the pumpkin coach has def turned rotten, and it’s well past midnight. But that’s not to say there’s no more beauty left after the honeymoon stage is over…I told my friend once that “it’s not about finding the ‘one’, it’s about finding the one that you can grow & change with”…it’s def a compromise like you say. The person we are when we enter a relationship isn’t the same person we are later on in the future. Life changes us, people change us…sometimes for the better, sometimes for worse. But the right person will embrace all those changes….see, now I’m rambling on! I’m def not going to keep my girls from looking for the “fairytale”…I want them to experience what love is (at the right age of course, hehe) but I guess, in a more realistic sense. There is a “happily ever after”…for everyone
it’s not always the same for everyone, but it’s there…I’m sure of it =)
Thx for leaving your opinions and your view on love Dinah, I really enjoyed reading it…sorry if I rambled on! hehe XO